Reflecting on Our Wedding Day...October 4, 1992

October 4, 1992… our wedding day.  As I look outside, the day itself was almost identical in weather.  The morning fog covered the ground, but as the sun began to shine, the fog began to roll away, and God provided a beautiful, sunny, warm day in which we became united as one.  

For many people, when they refer to the time they got married, they will say, “Today I am marrying my best friend.” Today, I can say, I am married to my best friend, but on that day 27 years ago, I was marrying the man whom God had chosen to be my spouse, and to whom I was looking forward with a deep love,  butterfly anticipation and a strong faith, to spending the rest of my life with, as God revealed our journey together.  

In our faith, and culture, through prayer and trusting the promptings of His Holy Spirit, we, through faith choose our spouse.  For Dave and I, although we had grown up in the same congregation and lived in the same town, for the most part we were strangers to one another.  At some point in both of our adult lives we had given our lives to Christ, and we both shared the same faith and belief that God would provide for us a spouse in HIs mysterious and all knowing ways. 

It really is amazing what God can do.  When Dave went to speak to our Elder in regards to the direction of “asking for me”, giving me a proposal, he truly did not know how old I was, where I was at in life, going to school, working... but he did know that we were both grounded and settled upon the Solid Rock of Jesus Christ.  And, with this childlike faith, he moved forward as God had put into his heart to marry me.

When I received my proposal, I did not know how old Dave was, what he did for work, whether he lived at home or on his own, I didn’t even know who all of his siblings were!! I clearly remember, going to the jewelry store to buy him a watch for an engagement gift.  I was having trouble deciding which one, leather band, or link band, dressy or casual, etc, and the salesperson who was trying to help me, said, “Well, what kind of guy is he, how would you describe him?” I remember, blankly looking up at the lady, and answering, “I really have know idea.”  My guess is that salesperson definitely had “a story to share” with her family that night, about this ‘crazy’ young lady who was buying an engagement gift for a guy she couldn’t even remotely describe. Sorry, at that point, I was clueless!!

Today, 27 years later, I am more confident than ever that God chose Dave specifically for me.  Our marriage has been filled with joy, peace, unrest, love, ups, downs, laughs, tears, disappointments, successes, failures, forgiveness, mistakes, faith, adjusting, transitioning, giving and taking, new life, death of loved ones, weddings, funerals, vacations,  and literally everything else that all married couples experience as they journey through life together. From the very depths of my heart I thank God for giving me this wonderful, kind, faithful, loving man to spend my life with.  

As a wife to Dave, I know I am loved, and cherished.  He cares for me unconditionally, and above all he continues to put his faith and love for Christ above all other things in his life.  We’re not perfect, but what God did for Dave, and what He did for me 27 years ago, was all part of His perfect plan. I am so thankful, I am richly blessed, and I can’t wait to spend the next 27 years and beyond by his side. Holding his hand, sharing his love, walking side by side,  with the man whom God has chosen to be my spouse, and to whom I look forward with a deep love, butterfly anticipation and a strong faith, to spending the rest of my life with, as God continues to unfold our life's journey together.